The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

I have a myspace account without photos of me or my real name. The man who raped me 10 years ago has requested to be my friend. I looked at his profile because I felt I had too. As screwed up as this world is he has gone to school for the exact same thing as me. He working in the same industry as me. His birthday is the exact same date as my current boyfriends. I know I should deny him as a friend. But I feel flooded with emotions and I feel like I have regressed to 10 years ago. I just don't know how to handle how I feel. I feel like I did 10 years ago. I am also freaked out about the career and birthday thing. Can anyone relate?

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

What a strange situation. Look at how many friends he has on there. Is it a lot? If its a lot, he might just be trying to get a bazillion friends. If he has a lot that work in the same industry, it is possible he is just networking. If he really doesnt have many, he is trying to control, stalk and bother you. Just deny him and see what happens. If he keeps trying to add you, then I would report him for abuse, and explain your personal situation

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

You need to delete him now and get off of myspace for a while. If you are an adult and have a boyfriend as well as work and go to school you do not need to be hanging out on myspace. Find a new hobby for a while.

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

Whatever you do, don't let him manipulate you into a situation like that again! People like him are very good at that and if he knows how you feel, he will probably use your emotions to his advantage. Stay far away from him!

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

Don't do anything too quickly. Are you seeing someone? You should talk to your family/friends/doctor (whoever will understand). Don't do anything yet.

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

WILL YOU PLEASE DO THIS FOR THE GRACE OF GOD ..PLEASE BLOCK THAT MAN FROM EVER CONTACTING YOU ..WHAT HE DONE WAS A TERRIBLE THING , I AM CHOKED UP INSIDE THINKING , HE IS ALLOWED TO EVEN OWN A COMPUTER

HE SHOULD HAVE DONE LIFE IN PRISON ..GOD BLESS YOU!

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

Don't add him as a friend. You need to let it go and try to move on again. Its going to be hard and I'm sorry for your pain but you can't have any contact with him if you want to move on. If you have unresolved issues and feel you need some type of closure you may want to send him a message telling him what he did and how it has affected you but be prepared for an idioc response.

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

delete him..plain and simple. Why would there be any debating? as for the same carreer, If your in a carreer where you have to talk to him just explane to your manager or boss...you had an experience with this guy in the past and you would rather not deal with him .

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

You may want to delete your myspace account and start a new one. As much as you may hate to do that, but if you are freaked out as much as you say you are; dont see what you would lose. Nothing is as valuable as peace of mind.

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

don't accept him. just delete him and if he bothers you tell tom and get his profile deleted or contact your local authority. im sorry you got raped. but don't accept him. if will just bring back old and bad memories. which can cause you to stress out. talk to a counselor or a therapist about this.

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

call the police

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

Pick a counselor or lawyer to help you decide whether to go to the cops . I'd feel that the choice was between going to the cops, direct confrontation - with backup, and running like hell. Doing nothing, or acting on your own, are NOT safe options.

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

Firstly, you have to report this rape if you haven't already. Without a doubt. Even if you may have dealt with the issues, think how many other people he could have done it to, and will do to in the future. Would you really wish that on someone?

Secondly, who cares if his birthday and career are the same as you? Big whoop. People go on holiday to somewhere they've never been before and see people they know, people have won the lottery - bigger coincidences have happened than that!

What do you mean flooded with emotions? If he raped you, those feelings should be hate, anger, disgust, blood-lust possibly! You're talking like you had romantic feelings, or even worse 'starting to have them now' for this vile sick person.

You need to report this man to the police, and you need to deny him as a friend. Are you actually saying that you would consider someone who raped you a friend?!

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

Contact the police and set him up for a fall.

The man who raped me has contacted me without knowing it. What do I do?

You are either being stalked by the former rapist, who has also found out information on your career and on your boyfriend's birthday

Or, it is your boyfriend.

Contact the police. (If this is real, which I don't think it is??? eg. "Can you relate?" You are way too glib.)